Thursday, December 27, 2012

The Delhi ASSAULT


Shadow of a man attacking a women
Few days back my love called me, she was furious on the phone about something; she kept on cursing non specifically and was indefinitely shouting at me. I have never seen her like this before, so as I wondered why she was acting such, suddenly everything went silent on the other side and all that hate in her voice turned into puling. She was weeping hard now, I normally feel sad when I see someone crying and when that someone is very close to me, my eyes will wet unwittingly.  With a concerned voice I asked her what happened and she told me about a mail that came to her inbox that same day which told the full story of the brutal Delhi assault. She was depressed and miserable; she couldn't even believe how men could go to such extreme for sexual pleasure. She got more furious and started suggesting how those men responsible should be sentenced to painful death, I listened silently not able to utter a single word to calm her down. I could have but I just didn't because a women treated gravely anywhere in the world were, are and will be a shame for all men alike.

For months I have wanting to write about the immoral exploitation of women and children all around the country, and now the latest brutality that happened in Delhi has urged me to do it now. The news channels and news papers see only a sensation in this issue because this is not the first one that they have reported nor is the most brutal. All the protests and slogans will die down once the frustration of the gathering mass settles and all will go back to their normal lives but the truth will remain that these kinds of atrocious acts will happen again and again in this country. It’s not only adult women that are falling victims of these inhuman acts, even under aged children (male and female) are widely assaulted all over the country by the men with whom they should have felt most secure, yes it is their own fathers and school teachers that are being the living devils. Many such cases reported recently in my home state and many more that had happened earlier there makes me wonder whether we men are really civilized.

Protesting only at the time of such a felony or giving capital punishment or chemical castration to the felons won’t do much good in preventing all these from happening in the future and nor going to reduce its numbers because frightening tactics always produces inverse or no results. An instinctive judgment of the situations or majority opinion of a frustrated public will only make things worse, so we should come up with something that can make a real difference. Implementing more police force and fast track courts will only make an initial fuss as the criminals will go to new extremes to commit crime. So instead of cutting the tree after it leans over the house, It shouldn't be allowed to grow in that manner from the beginning itself. At present we are depending on science to find solution for most or all of our problems then why aren't we depending on it for controlling the spread of such a savage mental disorder (I call it a mental disorder because I couldn't understand how a sane man could act such) even at a time when physiology and psychiatry are so advanced. First a systematic scientific study should be started from the lower level itself to find the reason for the increase in number of these mentalities among men; whether it is the general parenting style, social structure, educational system or all of it in equal share, whatever it is it had to be clearly sorted out. After understanding the problems periodic changes should be implemented to the governing system of the nation, judicial system and the way of life of its citizens because modifying the existing system will not bring any change as it hasn't done any better after so many years of practice. If culture, religion, belief and heritage can’t provide us a happy secure life, then the time has come to change them all.


Vivekananda's quote on progress of nation


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21 comments:

  1. Nicely written. There is a lot of simplicity and honesty on your post Rahul.
    I share the stand with you on this issue. Read my post on:
    http://manavlalotra.com/delhi-case-who-are-we-protesting-against/

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  2. Terrific post, compassionately and intelligently written. There must be clear laws protecting women and children, and these laws must be clearly and fairly enforced. Also, a strong message emanating from the culture itself, transmitted through parents, educators and spiritual leaders about the dignity and inviolability of women and children and that any assault against this dignity and inviolability will not be tolerated.

    Incidentally, Rahul, I love and agree with everything you say on your About Me page.

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  3. This is what I would label as pure evil. It wasn't bad enough to rape a person on a bus with many others, but they had to brutally and viciously attack her too - enough to almost murder her and for what? sexual gratification. When I originally heard what they did to her, and I had to sit down. I was mad with anger that nobody intervened to save her. I was mad that the bus didn't stop knowing there was a commotion. I was mad that she was aware of what was taking place up to a point.

    To think that these men have sisters, mothers and most probably wives with kids at home, is beyond me. I fear this is not the end. I don't have an answer Rahul but what I would like to say would get me banned from the internet permanently.

    I've also heard about another rape attack since then, and the news are saying that rape is a common thing there.

    Teaching always starts from home but that is no guarantee. Schools/colleges have major parts to play since our children spend a majority of their day in these places but no guarantees. Our work places, spiritual leaders, governments, police, authorities etc etc need to take an active stance against this and many other crimes otherwise it will continue, just as it already has. I best put a lid on it now before I explode.

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  4. What a great post with such a wonderful last line. I whole-heartedly agree.

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  5. There is a very small percentage of society that is completely failing, and needs to be fixed. The problem is, the majority of people look at the stats, and decide that the odds are against it being too wide spread, so it just gets brushed away.

    During Obama's speech about that school shooting, he said something like, "Do we accept that these things are the price we pay to live in a civilized society?" His answer is of course no, but I don't think its a hard enough no.

    Rape and brutality is something that is animal nature, we can see it in many different animal species. There is a certain duck population that is fading out of existence because the males are so violently sexual they are killing the females with sex.

    There has to come a point to where we can stand up and make morality something that is taught to kids. The problem is, we try to base morality into religion, so its not taught in schools. Instead kids get it from their parents, who might have gotten knocked up at 15, and have an abusive relationship because they were too young to be in one.... Society is messed up, and its only going to get worse, until we (at the very least) start forming a moral standard that's not religion based....

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    1. Hi Dan,

      I agree with you 100%, depending on God and religions to teach our children morality is the biggest mistake.

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  6. Although rape is considered sexual assault, it is a predatory act of pure violence. I don't know of any religion that condones this type of behavior, but corrupt people will always find a way to justify their use of force within the scriptures. Your last sentence is spot on. An excellent post!

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    1. Hi Helana,

      There are some religions and cultures which insists rape as punishment to women particular crime.

      Thanks for your comment :)

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  7. It's a very sorry and pathetic situation that the women in this country face. From conception they are at a danger for destruction. And all of this in a country where goddesses are worshipped and women have occupied the premier positions of leadership. Please read my post http://jeevankuruvilla.blogspot.in/2012/12/much-beyond-rape.html

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    1. Hi Dr. Jeevan,

      I read your post and it is a wonderful one, you have mentioned some of reasons behind the downcast of the women in our community.

      Regards
      Rahul

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  8. well written to captivate attention...Gud luck..GOD<3U

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    1. Hi Adhi Das,
      When I wrote this post I have the same intention as you do when you left this comment, ie to let your thoughts be known to others, in your term to captive attention. We all behave in our own ways to seize others attention and luck has nothing to do in it.

      And I don't believe a myth like god exist so it won't be possible for a mythical character to love me but any ways thank you.

      Regards
      Rahul

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  9. If culture, religion, belief and heritage can’t provide us a happy secure life, then the time has come to change them all.

    You said it!

    And that's just what I think too. I wrote the same in my latest blog in different words.

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  10. Whats saddening is that the brutality could go to such inhuman levels! If this is the kind of society that we come to be, then can we really go back to being humans? The even more sad part is that, it takes such a brutal incident for us to step out and ask for strict measures, when such incidents take place almost everyday. Most of which, don't even come to light. Something about this whole situation makes one outrage at the same time, giving this tiny bit of cynicism.

    My world, my thoughts, my musings...

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  11. I hope that Indians awaken after this brutal attack on this braveheart. It is time to make us relook our attitudes and behaviour towards our sisters and to make India a safe place for women to live in equality and dignity!

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  12. A very well written article.

    I lived in India for seven month and traveled with western females that were assaulted constantly when in public places. I came to the conclusion that it was due to culture.

    The dowry system in India could be the biggest cause to all of this due to people preferring to have male children, and in some places "getting rid of" female babies, this prevents a woman for every man, and being perverse might be the only type of mixed sex contact many men will receive.

    Also everyone sleeping in the same rooms, and no chance for the man to relieve their urges in private could lead to more aggressive sexuality due to repression.

    Believe it or not women being free to sleep with people for love is a good thing, both the men and the women get what they want, and it is far more natural than trying to repress it through religion.

    That is my opinion from my observation of your wonderful country that I really enjoyed while I was there, but being there as a man instead of a woman is something I am extremely grateful for.

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  13. It is hard to believe that such a thing happened!
    I am pained for the young lady!
    I really can't understand how people can behave like this!!
    It is time we collectively act -how much more do we wait for to happen?

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  14. Well Rahul, reading your post brought it all back. I don't think we can ever forget the brutality of this case. We know our government is apathetic and in the short term I hope ordinary Indians will continue with their protests out on the streets till those low lives are severely punished. Long term there's a whole range of things we can discuss and analyse honestly.

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  15. I'm not sure the people who did this were insane. It was their desire to dominate, even more than their sexual frustration -- how dare a woman resist, talk back, bite back at them, fight?

    Long term measures include improving the upbringing of our children where girls and boys are treated at par, reducing violence in the media, and protesting sexist remarks and actions whenever and wherever they happen.

    In the short term however, we need a more responsive and sensitized police, and fast-tracked courts. It is often the certainty of punishment, rather than its duration, that is the right deterrent.

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  16. I completely agree with you and as a matter of fact I wrote something similar on this subject and while browsing through what others have written I landed up in your post. Very nicely composed.

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